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Willpower and Hypnosis
As a hypnotist, I often
get questions and comments that relate to willpower:
"I don't think I can be
hypnotized because I have a very strong will."
"Can hypnosis give me more
willpower?"
"Can repeated use of
hypnosis weaken my will?"
And so on.
So what is willpower,
and how does it relate to hypnosis?
I define willpower as the
conscious ability to override the urgings, habits, compulsions, signals, and
emotions of the unconscious. Willpower can take many forms. The dieter who turns
down a dessert he really wants is practicing willpower. The runner who decides
to push on when her body is crying out to quit is practicing willpower. The
depressed person who decides to get out of bed, smile, and engage in life is
exercising willpower. The diabetic who sticks himself with a needle several
times a day despite the pain is practicing willpower. The student who commits to
studying a subject an hour every day—and actually succeeds in doing so, all
semester—is demonstrating willpower. The rescue worker who runs into a burning
building despite knowing and fearing the dangers is showing a type of willpower
we call courage.
What all of these examples
have in common is that they involve the conscious mind wrestling against the
unconscious and winning through sheer determination. If there's no unconscious
impulse, then no willpower is needed. For example, the person who hates the
taste of chocolate is not showing willpower by turning down a chocolate dessert.
So how does willpower
relate to hypnosis?
Hypnosis is a tool for
working with the unconscious mind rather than overcoming it. So hypnosis won't
give you more willpower per se, but it can modify those unconscious
urgings that are so hard to defeat through sheer willpower. For example, the
person who wishes to turn down dessert can use hypnosis to decrease his desire
for chocolate cake, meaning that less willpower is needed. The diabetic who has
been taught pain management under hypnosis may not feel the pain of the needle,
meaning that no willpower is needed.
One irrational charge once
leveled against hypnosis is that it will weaken the subject's willpower. This
came about from a misunderstanding of hypnosis; the Svengali-Trilby image from
fiction made many think that hypnosis is a battle of wills between the operator
and the subject. In truth, a hypnosis session is not a battle; it's more like a
journey in a canoe. Unless the two people in the canoe cooperate, they will
never get where they want to go.
While the fear that
hypnosis weakens the will is no longer common, the sister misconception that a
strong will (or a strong mind or high intelligence) prevents a person from
entering hypnosis still crops up. The truth is quite the opposite:
Strong
willpower is an asset to anyone who wants to use hypnosis. Most methods of
induction involve focusing the conscious mind on one object, thought, or
activity, ignoring all distractions; such concentration employs willpower.
Hypnosis sessions that involve self-reflection may require the willpower to
confront one's fears, doubts, or painful memories. Ongoing hypnotic programs, in
which the client uses a hypnosis recording or other self-hypnosis, require the
same willpower that deciding to do anything on a daily basis requires.
Furthermore, while
hypnosis may eliminate unconscious impulses in some cases, in other cases it
merely weakens them over time. In the second case, willpower is very important
to "help the hypnosis along," giving the suggestions time to take root and grow.
For instance, if the dieter who is trying to resist chocolate cake decides to
eat it despite having hypnotically-decreased desire, he is sending a message to
his unconscious: The message says that he isn't really serious about resisting
the cake, and furthermore, that he's not really serious about hypnosis.
So why not just use
willpower instead of hypnosis?
The answer is simple:
Hypnosis is easier and therefore more effective.
Let's say that you're
someone who dreads exercise, even though you know it's good for you. Now, you
could vow to exercise for a half-hour every day, relying on your strong
willpower and high intelligence to guarantee that you will continue to do
something you find unpleasant and boring. And you might succeed.
But wouldn't it be easier
to commit to spending a half-hour lying in bed listening to a hypnosis recording
that motivates you to want to exercise? I can state from experience that it's
much easier to commit to lying in bed than it is to commit to lifting weights.
Of course, after using hypnosis, you still have to get up and exercise, but the
motivation hypnosis provides will make that increasingly easy to do.
Also, there are signals
from your body that are difficult to ignore through sheer willpower. Pain is one
of them. Through hypnosis, the signal can be turned down or even off. That's
much more likely to be successful than simply ignoring the pain.
Emotions are similarly
difficult to manipulate with the conscious, rational mind. One apt metaphor is
that the emotions are a horse, and we're simply the rider. The rider might know
what's best, but the horse is always stronger. The rider is really only in
charge as long as the horse allows it. Most riders manage to exert their will
over the horse; hypnosis, on the other hand, is the equivalent of using a horse
whisperer. A hypnotist is an "emotion whisperer."
Hypnosis and Willpower:
A Winning Combination
So, in the end we can see
that hypnosis and willpower are two tools that can work toward the same goal.
Hypnosis doesn't weaken the will, nor does a strong will prevent a person from
learning to use hypnosis. A hypnotist can't give a client more willpower, but
hypnosis can tip the scales in the client's favor. Just as a carpenter needs
both a saw and a hammer to build a table, a well-equipped human being needs both
willpower and hypnosis to make positive changes in life.
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